Abuse can run the gamut from verbal abuse to physical and or sexual abuse. It can also result from absent or neglectful parents. The ramifications of growing up in a chaotic or lonely home can surface in unexpected and confusing ways as an adult. Every day stresses trigger survival skills you learned growing up that are now unconscious to you- you have no idea why you are reacting that way and you keep getting stuck in the same conflict over and over like the movie "Ground Hog Day". These coping skills were largely learned from the time you were born to age 10 when you did not have the context to understand what was going on- you made a decisions like "I will never cry or let anyone know that I am hurt or vulnerable again" to retain power with a dad who handled stress with rage and hitting. Now many years later in your couple relationship you can't get close to your spouse as you are very uncomfortable revealing any kind of hurt or vulnerability. There are many communication exercises of a psycho-spiritual nature that will allow you to open your heart again and increase your intimacy and aliveness. Jenny offers a wide variety of services from individual and couples work to small and large group classes, workshops and annual retreats done in beautiful settings in California and Hawaii. For further information and appointments, contact Jenny at (650) 595-3343 or email her at jennyengland77@gmail.com.